A quiet or reserved child does not have to have interpersonal relationship problems and it is likely that, as he grows up, this aspect of his personality changes (I do not mean that shyness disappears). But shy behavior is contemplated in a continuum, being able to find the child is some extreme or middle point, with all possible gradations. What happens if my child is extremely shy?
We have to be attentive, because sometimes It seems that very shy children do not have problems, but what happens is that they do not externalize them. But they may be suffering some problem in silence and we have to help them.
Problems that the very shy child may have
Some of the problems that a child with extreme shyness can have They are:
They find it difficult or not able to express their thoughts, feelings and opinions.
They are passive, inhibited and introverted in interpersonal relationships.
Part of their environment can take advantage of them (usually at school), since they allow them to be ordered and obey, without defending their tastes and rights. They do not make decisions, allowing others to decide for them.
The negative consequences of passivity and inhibition are that the child feels unhappy, has low self-esteem. Your self-assessment is negative and you have feelings of inferiority.
Shy children fear a negative evaluation, both of strangers and acquaintances. that is, they are afraid of rejection.
They feel frustration, unhappiness, and if they always remain in the background in interpersonal relationships they can feel isolated and feel social anxiety.
Present a high degree of self-demand and are very critical of themselves and hypersensitive. Their concern is wide for the most varied topics and they often have feelings of guilt for not being accepted.
Luckily, generally the problems derived from shyness are mild and serious disorders have to be evaluated by a specialist to help the boy or girl overcome shyness or coexist better with it. It is false that the problem improves spontaneously over time.
Only if the shyness is mild, usually, with the development of the child and social contact, will they coexist better with this characteristic of their personality, which does not have to bring problems. But We cannot stop paying attention to extreme shyness if it is affecting the child's well-being, because the difficulties could go to more.
